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When You Are In Denial Of Break Up

Handling Your Feelings Of In Denial Of A Break Up Of A Romantic Relationship

Staying in denial of a break up of a romantic relationship is normal and is the first step in the grieving process. It becomes a big problem when the feelings of denial lingers on and stays for too long. Hanging on to an old love for an extended period of time is a cause for serious concern. One must accept reality at some point. It’s like living in the past that no longer exists. Some of the ways to deal with the denial feelings are discussed below.

Understand that break up can be an unsurmountable loss and will require some time to fully recover from it. Your mind may tell you that it is a temporary phase and there are still hopes for things to become like they were. This indeed protects you from any panic attacks or big shocks. Give yourself time to slowly absorb the unforeseen happenings in your life.

Talk about your break up with your close friends and family and don’t hide a big storm in your heart. The more you talk to others about it, the more real it will become. Your close friends and family have your best in their heart and they will help you accept the reality. They may give you an insight that may not have occurred to you yet.

Let go of past and live in the present. Don’t hold on to good old memories. Get rid of everything that reminds you of the past. Take a pen and piece of paper and write with your own hand that it is over. Burn a physical photo of your ex and with that burn your memories too.

Focus on the future and stop dwelling the past. Look forward instead of backwards. No matter how much we want, we can’t live in the past. Keep a positive attitude and remind yourself that you have an excellent future. When one door closes, two other opens up.

Take proactive steps to get out of feelings of denial. Have a normal routine and get back with your life. Time doesn’t stay still for anyone. Stop wasting time on someone who no longer has any part in your life. Let bygones be bygones.

Work with a therapist if you need to. The therapist may not be able to remove your sorrows but they can definitely remove your feelings of denial. They are trained professionals, they do this for a living. Within a few sittings, you will be totally out of denial.

Analyze and dissect your relationship. Think of all the good and the bad things in it. Keep doing that until you reach a point of conclusion where you are able to find more bad things than good ones. You will slowly be convincing yourself that a break up was the right thing to do. This is perhaps the most effective way of getting out of denial and getting in tune with the reality. Remember, nobody in the whole world has access to the deepest part of your brain and heart. Make use of this access that you have and talk to your inner soul. If you do all this, you would be out of feelings of denial before you finish reading this article.
Date Posted/Updated On: 10/22/2016
Author: ispace1

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