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When Your Ex Is In Denial Of Break Up

Handling Your Ex’s Feelings Of In Denial Of A Break Up Of A Romantic Relationship


Sometimes it happens that you get over a break up rather quickly because your denial stage or overall grieving period was shorter than the other person’s. The other person gets stuck in denial for a longer period and refuses to accept things. This is more common then you lead the break up, but not always. Things can be really difficult for the other person when they are in denial. The other person refuses to exit the relationship despite you making every effort to explain politely that it is actually over. Some of the ways to ways to deal with the denial feelings of the other person are discussed below.

Make things very clear with clear words that the relationship has ended and there is no going back. It may sound harsh, but sometimes that’s what the other person needs to hear. Leave nothing ambiguous or vague. They are perhaps staying in a partial closure. You need to give them full and final closure and close the door completely. In fact, lock that door and throw the keys in the river. Make it clear that any form of communication will be unwelcomed.

Totally close all sources of contact. No more meetings, emails, text messages, or any sort of contact. If you live in the same neighborhood, try not to bump into them. If you work in the same office or go to the same school, try to stay as far away from each other as you possibly can. Avoid any common hangout places, clubs, restaurant, etc. Make every effort to minimize all sorts of contact.

Don’t lead on the other person by playing mind games. You yourself may be going through a confused state of mind. There may be times when you may want to make things right. But if you have made up your mind to break up, don’t confuse the other person. Doing so will a big emotional mess.

Be firm but don’t be mean to the other person. You must understand and be respectful of the other person’s feelings. Be compassionate and try to understand their pain. Remember, the other person may be going through the same things that you may have gone through. The only difference is that it was a lot easier for you than it is for them.

Remember that it is just a passing phase and it won’t be like this forever. Give the other person time to deal with the pain that they are going through. The other person is just overwhelmed with a lot of emotions and feelings. So be understanding and respectful of their feelings.

If nothing works and things appear to get out of control, it may be time to take some stern actions. You have been awfully patient and made every effort to get through to you ex but all went in vain. Things go totally out of hands and becomes a nuisance. It may be advisable to create some legal boundaries to protect yourself. Remember that your safety comes first.

When your ex is not willing to accept a break up, it all comes down to setting boundaries. Just try your best to remain kind and humane during the entire process. It is just a matter of time before your ex will realize and takes an exit. Until then, just be kind and patient. The pain that comes with a break up can be very bad and some of us needs more time than others to cope up with this pain.
Date Posted/Updated On: 12/04/2016
Author: ispace1


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