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Cold Shoulder In Relationship

Never Show Cold Shoulder Or Ignorance In A Relationship

A romantic relationship is supposed to be a hot intimate affair between two people. However, sometimes one or both partners start giving a cold shoulder. It is the intentional exclusion of one partner from another’s life. One person acts like the other person doesn’t even exist. It may include creating all sorts of barriers that ultimately leads to ignoring the other person.

The most important component of giving cold shoulder is by ignoring everything the other person says or does. There is a complete break of all sorts of communication. There may also be physical barriers where one person tries to avoid even being in the same room at the same time. In short, it is total ignorance of even the mere existence of the other person even if they are living together.

The main reason of showing a cold shoulder to a partner is giving them some form of punishment for something wrong they might have done or something that is not acceptable. We all are fully aware of the fact that human beings are social animals. It becomes almost impossible for us to function without social interactions. When all social ties or interactions are cut, it amounts to being punished.

In all fairness, giving a cold shoulder is a direct form of punishing a partner. It’s a way for one partner to take control over the other by completely ignoring them but still not physically abandoning them. It has more to do emotionally punishing the other person by depriving them of love and affection. The person giving the cold shoulder gets all the focus and is perceived to be in the driver’s seat.

When one partner gives a cold shoulder to the other person, it is an aggressive act intended to emotionally hurt or harm the other person. it goes against all the norms set for having a healthy relationship. It demonstrates total lack of affection or care for the other person. For some people, it can even be more hurtful than even ending the relationship. All these things can lead to loss of self-confidence and depression. Hence too much of it may even amount to emotional abuse.

The biggest mistake people make in resolving the cold shoulder syndrome is by guessing or reading the other person’s mind. One should not guess because they could be totally wrong. They may end up working on treating something that is not even a problem. So always know what actually is bother the other person instead of reading their mind.

Another mistake to avoid is to restrain from giving the cold shoulder back and making things even worse. Doing so will further complicate things. Instead, make your partner feel that you care about them and want to know what is bothering them. Sometimes, all it takes is a little initiative to open the door of communication. So invite your partner to open up so that you out it behind you.

When one partner shows a cold shoulder, the other person needs to rub that same shoulder in order to warm it up. There should be no place for anything that is even remotely cold in a relationship. As soon you feel any coldness in your relationship, proactively talk with your partner and resolve things before they turn into a big issue. If you can do that, your relationship will forever remain as warm and compassionate as it was at the beginning.
Date Posted/Updated On: 04/22/2019
Author: ispace1

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